What's the smallest clutter clearing step? A video!

I have some exciting news to share with you...  After eleven months of doing pilates, I finally felt my core! 

That's a lie, I always feel my core, but last night I engaged it on command.  Huzzah!  I wanted to make sure you heard the news asap.  ;)

OK, you know what's really exciting? 

A video, that's what!

While I was stuck in NYC I got an email from Martha, a lovely gal who wants to take the smallest step toward sorting through her clothes clutter.

Her letter inspired me to make a little video because it's been awhile and I miss chatting with you face to face. 

When it comes to clutter clearing and so many other things, it has to be a big grand event, or it doesn't matter. 

I mean, when was the last time you celebrated cleaning your bathroom or doing the dishes?

There are many small steps standing between you and change. 

Thinking that you have to do it all, right now, perfectly so often stops you from doing anything at all. 

You know what?  Today could be the day you take one tiny step. 

It doesn't have to be perfect or huge and you don't have to paint your toes to take it.

Now it's your turn! 

What's the smallest step you can take today? 

Let me know what it is in the comments below or better yet, TAKE IT and then check in below.  Remember it can be teeny tiny. 

Take care,

Cecilia

ox

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Kickin' That Clutter Old School Style - An Interview

I apologize for my absence last week.  I was in NYC last weekend and like many others had my trip extended for a few more days by Sandy.

I was laughing a little as I very consciously didn't over pack, which meant that I didn't have seven extra pairs of underwear, my meditation cushion or my computer with me.

I was very lucky to be staying with a friend in Brooklyn (got one of the last trains out of the city before they shut down the subway) and we had power and good food in the fridge. 

I was even luckier that my friend had a car with a full tank of gas and could get me to the airport on time to catch my rescheduled flight as all the taxis were running out of gas.

So much gratitude...  Heart ache for those who lost so much...

I have something a little different for you this week.

I like to put my iPod and iTunes on shuffle when I'm walking around or when I'm writing.  Just now heard an old demo by my talented friend Ken and now The Acorn is soothing me with perfect harmonies. 

Twice this week I was surprised to hear my own nervous enthusiastic voice coming through the ear buds.  It's an interview that my friend Shannon Robinson did with me for her old radio show back in 2006. 

In fact it was the very interview that inspired me to crack open that box from my basement.

Here it is for your enjoyment. 

I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.  What's been going on with you and your clutter these days?  Any insights or aha moments? 

Of course if you enjoyed the interview, I'd love for you to share it with a friend. 

Take care,

Cecilia ox

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My Relationship Corner is Where?!

Last week I wrote about how dealing with a box in my basement helped me to find love. 

Since then, I've had a few people ask me where the heck they might find this so-called relationship corner?

If my box isn't convincing enough, here are some other stories about relationship corners to get you curious enough to look in yours.

I was visiting a friend of my sister's who has been mostly single in her adult life.  I sat in her dining room drinking tea and listened to her complain about her latest man troubles.  As she spoke, I stared at her relationship corner in disbelief.

Like my box, it was a collection so beautiful it could never have been assembled on purpose.

Shall I tell you what I saw?

  • A big painting of a woman playing the violin, alone, with a sorrowful look on her face. My sister's friend plays the violin.

  • A solo figurine. When I asked her about it she informed me that there used to be a pair, but one had been broken.

  • A mini desert complete with mostly dead cacti. Cuddly!

  • A broken dresser, it's drawers filled to overflowing with taxes (nothing says romance like unpaid taxes!)

There was more, but this gives you a little idea of what I'm talking about. 

In working with clients I've found old wedding dresses (the groom long gone), human sized plants (who needs a lover when you have a big old plant!) and the ashes of a dead cat (meow!) in relationship corners.

Once I even found a broken toilet!  Awww...  So romantic... 

This is all to say, that if you're single and don't want to be, it's worth taking a look to see what's in your relationship corner.

Behold the Bagua Map!

Bagua_Map.jpg

Now a quick and dirty intro to the Bagua Map and how to use it to find your relationship corner!

The Bagua Map is a tool that is used in Feng Shui to explore how specific areas of your home relate to specific areas of your life.  I don't see the Bagua's word as ironclad, but I do find it to be a helpful tool in deciding where to focus your clutter clearing attention.

This particular map is from the Western School of Feng Shui, where I studied Feng Shui way back in 2003 and how I started this crazy journey to becoming a clutter coach.

The way you use the bagua map is quite simple:

  1. Stand in the entryway of the house/apartment/room you want to map.

  2. Hold the bagua map horizontal with the 'entrance quadrant' on your belly.

  3. Imagine the map stretching out like silly putty to fill the space.

  4. The relationship corner (Love and Marriage on this map) is always going to be in the far right hand corner from the entryway.

The relationship corner in the bedroom is the one you want to pay extra special attention to, but as you learned from the story above, it's worth checking out what's in the basement too.  ;)

If you're interested in exploring another area of the Bagua map and your life, take your pick, apply the guidelines above and see what you can find. 

Taking a look at where your clutter is piling up in your place can be very illuminating.

This was just a super quick intro to using the bagua but if you're curious to learn more here are some books I recommend:

The Western Guide to Feng Shui by Terah Kathryn Collins

Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life: How to Use Feng Shui to Get Love, Money, Respect and Happiness by Karen Rauch Carter

Click here to download a free PDF version of the above Bagua Map from the Western School of Feng Shui website (it will download as soon as you click the link).

Now I'd love to hear from you!  Did you find anything interesting in your relationship corner when you checked it out?  Please tell me all about it in the comments below and if you have a friend who has a broken toilet or any long gone pets camping out in her relationship corner, please pass this along. 

Have fun!

Take care,

Cecilia

ox

p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on the list!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!